Reply #10: Flip the script: Thanksgiving at mom's house [View All]

[flvegan]

I would suggest to my mom that instead of all that travel, we instead invite the fam over to her/my house. I'd do all the work, but I'd ask for mom's advice and to help when/where she can in planning, cooking, shopping, etc. Make the event ALL ABOUT HER. What better "giving of thanks" than to do so for the woman that made it possible: mom.

That said, call sis, et al, and tell them that no, mom really cannot travel 6 hours (to and fro) and get around well in her wheelchair in this scenario. Instead, for the love of family, you've decided (as the decider *snicker*) that T-day plans have been changed.

Now, mom going there really isn't an option. Not so much a choice, but a necessity. However, if the rest of the family (3 weeks out from Thanksgiving is plenty of time) CHOOSES not to participate, then so be it. I'd remind them multiple times that this is their choice, nothing more, nothing less. Have a fabulous Thanksgiving with mom, and start planning your end of year festivities.

That's what I'd do, but I'm a bit of an asshole.