Reply #40: female bullied as a child [View All]

[MsUnderstood]

(1) Where were you bullied? At school, at home (by siblings), in your neighborhood?
all the above

(2) What was the subject of the bullying? Popularity? Your looks or body-image? Your intelligence? Your ethnicity? Your class? Your race? Your sex?
intelligence (school), failed friendship (neighborhood), mentally deficient sibling(home)

(3) What was the effect the bullying had on your life? Did you withdraw? Did you become a bully yourself? Did you fight back? (If so, how?) Did you compensate by trying to his your intelligence, or your spruce up looks, or what? How did you cope?
Shut down

(4) Were you ever beaten up? Or was your bullying just verbal?
Not including home life Almost beat up once..most attacks were verbal (name calling, threats)

(5) As you got older (in high school), how were you effected? Were you popular with your sex of choice? Did you have a boyfriend/girlfriend? Did you have a group of friends who liked you and welcomed you? Did you join a gang?
Bulling stopped by high school

(6) What years of school were you bullied? Grade School? Middle School? High School? All?
6th through 8th
(7) Did anyone in an authority position in the school system try and help you? Did it help or hurt the situation?
no
(8) Did you develop risky or self-destructive behaviors as a way to cope? (You don't have to say what they were to answer the question. If you are comfortable with a simple yes or no, those answers will be very helpful.)
no
(9) Has it effected you as an adult?
yes
(10) Has it effected your World View today? If so, how?
yes--I'm much more defensive when I hear my children talk about bullying, lack of response by authority figures, how the children are coping and quick to contact the school if I don't feel the school is shutting down the bullies