Reply #126: hmm... [View All]

[chervilant]

You seem like an educated man. I recommend "The Mermaid and the Minotaur" by Dorothy Dinnerstein. Although a challenging read, her book offers a cogent description of the psychic wounds we inflict on ourselves by assigning gender to emotions, thus restricting both genders from the full range of human emotions.

I've done advocacy for survivors of relationship violence for better than twenty-five years now. I do not use gender specific terminology for the very reason you've angrily asserted hereinabove.

I wonder if you self-identify as a survivor of relationship violence. At the very least, you experienced a stark betrayal of the trust and commitment you should have gotten from your partner.